I've been thinking a lot lately about the struggles that myself and my fellow sisters (and brothers) face day to day. I have an intensely curious mind and when I see pain in myself or others I always want to know why, then figure out a way to troubleshoot it.
My most recent 'struggle' has been in relation to men and dating. I have been meeting the most amazing men, seriously! I'm not on a single dating app but I've been meeting fantastic people...Though, none of them are the right fit.
The 'struggle' really isn't a struggle anymore because I've learned to be ok with things just not being a good fit. The true struggle was back when I would choose to commit to people who ultimately didn't really know me, love me or have my best interests at heart.
In the past I would compromise my needs and ignore my intuition because I just wanted to be in a relationship so badly. I wanted someone to tell me I was wanted, loved, worthy and important.
I would ignore the red...
After my last blog on How To Date (and fall in love with) Yourself In 4 Steps I got a lot of emails from people who were either in unhappy relationships or had just ended one and were feeling a lot of despair and pain.
It broke my heart to read those messages...not out of pity but out of empathy. I was instantly transported back to the girl who just 4 months ago couldn't eat, sleep or work because everything that made life familiar and 'safe' was taken away in just a matter of days.
Gut wrenching for us as humans because we're wired to feel our best when we have stability and safety.
There was one email in particular that stood out and transported me back even farther to 8 years ago when I left my fiancé and partner of 6 years.
It's hard to believe that that woman, me, 8 years ago, wanted a family, marriage and a house in suburbia with 4 rooms to fill with children. Things couldn't be more opposite for me now and that woman is such a distant memory I barely...
I've been sharing a bit about my process post-breakup on my Instagram over the past 4 months and I have to say it's been pretty amazing to watch my own transformation after life turned my toy box right over, dumped all my stuff on the floor then said (with an expectant grin on it's face) ... "figure it out sister".
I tried dating a bit at first but it didn't really work (and that's totally fine). So instead of investing my energy into others and dating, I moved into that headspace where I got hyper-vigilant with food, training, let go of drinking and then started to truly design my life.
With the clear space to focus on positive mindset shifts and decide what interactions would bring me the most joy I've zeroed in on a life that is mine, that makes me excited to wake up everyday and feel like if I were to die tomorrow I would die happy. Honestly.
I hear a lot of people complain about feeling disconnected, unhappy and unfulfilled and I...
I've been injured and its affecting my gut health and body composition. Not fun when you're on a workout and nutrition program to do just the opposite.
I've been gaining water weight and haven't been able to workout in days. It brought up a bunch of old gremlins that still appear sometimes when I'm under a great deal of stress.
As a recovered addict I expect these occurrences to happen (addictions rise when under stress) and when they do I follow a series of practices to manage my energy and stay in a positive and self-loving state vs going back to old patterns and addictions.
I talked in depth about my experience with self-hatred and how I manage it here.
I was an abused kid
I developed addictions, anxiety and depression at a young age
I hated myself when I looked in the mirror - Always.
I hated the way I talked, looked, thought, acted, expressed creativity - I literally hated everything about me.
Getting from that...
It's summer 2018 baby!! I'm riding high (but sober) on the long, hot days that seem to be strung together with work days being the only thing keeping me from living on a beach 24/7.
I've gotten to a place where I don't drink and don't feel the need to in order to have a fantastic time. It's taken me a long time to get here and I have to admit, it's a pretty cool feeling! Especially because there once was a time when I wouldn't be able to dance, meet new people or simply speak my mind without the use of alcohol.
For me, this is freedom, but for many of my clients and readers, it's bullshit.
People love to drink! And trust me, I get it. Alcohol is fun, it can feel really good and can also be a hobby (hello wine enthusiasts!).
Who wants to go to a patio or house party and drink Pellegrino all night while watching others get lubed up, flirt, tell jokes and be their uninhibited, fabulously fun selves without getting in on the action?
Well, me. And...
Last night I crawled into bed with my über eats from Impact Kitchen (I had the lean bowl) and sparkling water and put on "She's Gotta Have It" for the 2nd time (It's so good!! - Spike Lee joint!)
Nola, the main character, is a polyamorous, feminist and artist from Brooklyn, who owns her power and is on a self-love journey one can only hope to experience.
She's unapologetic of her art, femininity, human rights and sexuality and I'm basically in love with her lol (serious girl crush anyway).
She reminded me that the relationship with Self, is the moat decadent one available to us.
We can learn to love ourselves in such a deep way that it can create such gratitude for being alive - a fulfilment that no one else can provide us (Though, I don't have kids so I can't speak to that experience).
True self love. What does that look like?
Well, I've been peeling that onion and am getting really excited about what the core looks like...Here's how I've been channeling...
I'm so happy you're here because I'm writing about a topic that is SO important nowadays - especially to anyone who is interested in living their healthiest life possible with minimal risk of weight gain, disease and chronic inflammation.
We're talkin' sugar, baby!
Everyone's favourite vice (ins't it though?). Whether we're aware of it or not sugar is a driving force behind many of our decisions surrounding food and drinks, and it can lead to a host of health issues...we'll touch on that in a bit.
What is sugar?
Sugar is a simple carbohydrate that is found in many vegetables, nuts, seeds, fruits and man-made foods and drinks (pop, alcoholic drinks, iced teas etc.)
Sugar contains 4 calores per gram compared to protein which contains 4 grams as well and fat which has 9 calories per gram.
When you're choosing carbohydrates or sugar to consume ideally you would choose the kinds that are nutrient dense such as fruits, vegetables, or minimally processed sweetness like...
Everyone is looking for ONE thing they can do to help shift their body into the one they've always dreamed of.
Is it going gluten free? Maybe.
Is it reducing your carb intake? Potentially.
Is it finally kicking that sugar addiction you've been struggling with for years? Could be!
No matter what comes up in the results of your Fit Genes test or what shows up in your personalized nutrition protocol, all that matters is one thing:
You have to do what it tells you to do.
I say that with pure understanding and empathy if you haven't done what your healthy friend, past coach or parent who recently went keto and has lost 50 lbs has told you to do.
We often procrastinate or think "There's no way that one thing is going to change my body composition".
How do you know that though? Until you try.
I have recently gone through the most incredible body transformation I've ever experienced. I've been lean and muscular in the past,...
Using genetics to customize my clients' nutrition, lifestyle and exercise protocols excites me to no end.
It's like having access information that allows those who are looking for a better quality of life to access this sort of super power that lives within them.
When someone wants to become better but doesn't know how then reaches out for help to gain that knowledge my heart opens up and I respect their desire, financial output for that info as well as the energy they're willing to invest in the process to become a better version of themselves.
I once sat in that same seat. Chronic fatigue, poor gut health, food intolerances, mood disorders and addictions all led me to access genetic testing to understand why my body systems were behaving the way they were.
I learned so much about my health and I forgave myself for so many health issues I thought I had created by being neglectful of myself.
I learned about my inability to detox hormones,...
Signs That Your Gut Health Is Kiboshing Your Results
Have you guys noticed how much air time the topic of gut health is getting these days? It's everywhere from newspaper articles to being featured on morning talk shows - Poor gut health is an epidemic and it's negatively impacting people's lives in a variety of ways.
Today I'm speaking specifically about its role with weight gain and weight retention.
Working out and eating clean isn't enough for many these days
I often think back to the way people looked in the 70's and 80's when they ate clean and worked out. Long, lean, thin skin, healthy! Do you know what I mean?
Nowadays due to high toxicity levels, depressed immune systems, inflamed guts and sluggish livers (thanks life in 2018!) people are struggling with bodies that they don't recognize even when they eat clean and train often.
So what does one do to get the body they want even if they're eating clean, training regularly and seeing minimal results?...
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