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How To Date (and fall in love with) Yourself In 4 Steps

I've been sharing a bit about my process post-breakup on my Instagram over the past 4 months and I have to say it's been pretty amazing to watch my own transformation after life turned my toy box right over, dumped all my stuff on the floor then said (with an expectant grin on it's face) ... "figure it out sister". 

I tried dating a bit at first but it didn't really work (and that's totally fine).  So instead of investing my energy into others and dating, I moved into that headspace where I got hyper-vigilant with food, training, let go of drinking and then started to truly design my life. 

With the clear space to focus on positive mindset shifts and decide what interactions would bring me the most joy I've zeroed in on a life that is mine, that makes me excited to wake up everyday and feel like if I were to die tomorrow I would die happy. Honestly. 

I hear a lot of people complain about feeling disconnected, unhappy and unfulfilled and I...

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4 Steps To Stop Hating Yourself When You Look In The Mirror

I've been injured and its affecting my gut health and body composition. Not fun when you're on a workout and nutrition program to do just the opposite. 

I've been gaining water weight and haven't been able to workout in days. It brought up a bunch of old gremlins that still appear sometimes when I'm under a great deal of stress. 

As a recovered addict I expect these occurrences to happen (addictions rise when under stress) and when they do I follow a series of practices to manage my energy and stay in a positive and self-loving state vs going back to old patterns and addictions. 

I talked in depth about my experience with self-hatred and how I manage it here.

Coles notes: 

I was an abused kid 

I developed addictions, anxiety and depression at a young age

I hated myself when I looked in the mirror - Always. 

I hated the way I talked, looked, thought, acted, expressed creativity - I literally hated everything about me. 

Getting from that...

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Why I've Gone Boys, Booze and Bad Vibes Free This Summer

Last night I crawled into bed with my über eats from Impact Kitchen (I had the lean bowl) and sparkling water and put on "She's Gotta Have It" for the 2nd time (It's so good!! - Spike Lee joint!)

Nola, the main character, is a polyamorous, feminist and artist from Brooklyn, who owns her power and is on a self-love journey one can only hope to experience. 

She's unapologetic of her art, femininity, human rights and sexuality and I'm basically in love with her lol (serious girl crush anyway).

She reminded me that the relationship with Self, is the moat decadent one available to us. 

We can learn to love ourselves in such a deep way that it can create such gratitude for being alive - a fulfilment that no one else can provide us (Though, I don't have kids so I can't speak to that experience).

True self love. What does that look like? 

Well, I've been peeling that onion and am getting really excited about what the core looks like...Here's how I've been channeling...

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The ONE Way To Get The Best Results Using Personalized Nutrition

Everyone is looking for ONE thing they can do to help shift their body into the one they've always dreamed of. 

Is it going gluten free? Maybe. 

Is it reducing your carb intake? Potentially. 

Is it finally kicking that sugar addiction you've been struggling with for years? Could be!

No matter what comes up in the results of your Fit Genes test or what shows up in your personalized nutrition protocol, all that matters is one thing: 

You have to do what it tells you to do. 

I say that with pure understanding and empathy if you haven't done what your healthy friend, past coach or parent who recently went keto and has lost 50 lbs has told you to do. 

We often procrastinate or think "There's no way that one thing is going to change my body composition". 

How do you know that though? Until you try. 

I have recently gone through the most incredible body transformation I've ever experienced. I've been lean and muscular in the past,...

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How Stress Is Causing You To Gain Weight

I think it's safe to say that stress is the root cause of many health issues today such as hormonal imbalances, poor gut health, cardiovascular disease and of course, weight gain and weight retention. 

But why is stress the cause of these issues? I'm going to focus on weight gain for this blog's purpose (head over here to learn about the role that stress plays gut health). 

As a weight loss and stress management coach I speak often about the parasympathetic and sympathetic states because understanding them and learning to manipulate the state you're in can make or break your progress with health and happiness. 

For example, we're supposed to spend about 95% of our day in our parasympathetic state (rest and digest) and only 5% in our sympathetic state (fight or flight). 

Though we are all preeeettttyyyy much doing the opposite. That means that our bodies are desperately trying to adapt and evolve to support our new lifestyle and physical...

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