K, full disclosure - I just got dumped. Like literally, just. And it hurts, and it sucks and all of the horrible things that come along with your reptilian brain reacting to 'abandonment' and rejection.
Not super fun.
Wanna know what is fun though? Getting. Over. It.
I wouldn't have been saying this just 3 short days ago but as my mama promised me every day gets better and more clarity appears with each conversation and rising sun.
The details, ins and outs and who's 'responsible' are irrelevant for this blog's purpose. That would just be gossip and probably an attempt to clear pain via my blog.
This...this is about speaking about the steps that a no bullshit, conscious and self-loving woman takes to mend a broken heart and move forward with more wisdom, more conviction, less unnecessary heart-ache and come out on TOP!
1. Call every person you know
Literally call every person you know who can hold space for you in the way you need them to....
If you were to write a list of all of the things you have planned in each day then take a step back and ask "Can any one human seriously keep up with all of this?" - what would your answer be?
If it's "yes", great! You're in a good groove.
If it's "no", I like your honesty and that place of honesty and awareness is where you can make some really positive changes for yourself.
I've listed a few reasons that I know to be potential self-sabotage like behaviour that keeps people stuck and not achieving their goals in the gym (and kitchen!).
1. Letting self-limiting beliefs fly under the radar
I've listed this one first because I think it's the most important thing to address yet often isn't. Addressing self-limiting beliefs takes a strong sense of self-awareness and willingness to monitor your thoughts...Practicing mindfulness for example is one way to do this.
Mindfulness has been the most powerful tool in my tool box to stay calm, in...
Let's be real...It's January 9th 2018 and everyone's about a week or so into the whole New Year New Me vibe ammi right?
Damn straight I'm right! It's all I hear in the beginning of the new year and trust me, I get it.
But what happens when you're a week or two into your new fitness regime, you're meal planning, pooping great, have tons of energy and then .... crickets.
The excitement is gone, you've worn all of your new workout gear at least once already and you know everyone in the gym at this point. Boredom sets in!
HOW DO YOU KEEP WORKING OUT A CONSISTENT COMMITMENT? right?
I hear you. Me too! (Not kidding).
I've been in love with fitness since I can remember. I literally came out of the womb doing a bicep curl lol
My idols growing up were Linda Hamilton and Arnold Schwarzenegger. I drew pictures of them with muscles and dreamed of one day becoming a fitness competitor. At the age of 15 I called down to the US and asked the ISSA if I could become a certified trainer and they...
Here we are. December 2017. We're about to enter another year where things will evolve, including our DNA. We are changing as humans by putting so much pressure on our bodies, inner-selves and the environment. If you sit back and reflect on what has happened over the past 117 years, can you imagine what's in store for the planet over the next 100? I personally can't and I have a pretty colourful imagination!
With all of this change I feel like a huge amount of the population is in a sense suffocating. We have been designed over thousands of years to feel safe, grounded, loved and worthy based on community and connection. Our tribe was our protection both physically and mentally.
Our tribes' elders would teach us, show us the way. Comfort us when we were in vulnerable places, reprimand us when we stepped out of line. We had a village to help raise a family, teach us about what to expect, how to work through the difficulties, how to eat and what herbs to take to heal.
We had people...
For many the holidays are a time to get incredibly excited about. Warm lights during dark evenings, comforting food and drinks, gatherings with your favourite loved ones and family and childhood memories of everyone putting in so much effort to make others feel loved and nurtured are what I believe makes Christmas so lovely for many across the globe.
Though what if you literally experienced none of that. What if Christmas was a dark time while growing up? Maybe there is some retraction during the holidays for those people and rightfully so.
If you've been following my journey, you already know that I grew up until the age of 12 with a mentally ill mother. She identified as someone who was 'really good at christmas' though to be honest, she sucked at it.
When I was as young as 6, she would shoo my older sister and I upstairs and away from the Christmas tree so she could take drugs, even going so far as having my older sister grab her pills from the freezer for her.
Hi all! This week I'm sharing about a topic that is near and dear...A topic that I feel many people struggle with and may be a BIG part of what keeps us stuck. I'm talking about Perfectionism.
When I say 'stuck' I mean not progressing. Still dealing with the same issues, same wants that go unmet, same goals that fall to the wayside.
As a personal trainer and wellness coach I teach people how and what to eat, how to move their bodies etc., but the really important work comes in teaching others how to identify the self-sabotage like belief systems, thoughts and that sneaky inner critic and then find ways to choose differently than they have in the past so they can achieve their goals, whatever they may be.
Why does this matter, and how can approaching cyclical patterns this way be beneficial?
Because we can't experience something new without doing something new.
So, what would an example of a cyclical pattern be that would be beneficial to identify and be brave enough to do...
I have a mentor or sorts...someone who has stepped up to the task of showing up for me time and time again, over the past 16 years. He started out as my homeopath, but quickly became a teacher to me on all things personal development-wise.
I was 19 years old, and struggling with gut issues beyond belief. The work we did on the body was a small piece of the puzzle. Mostly, we began to work on developing my acute awareness of what I needed in all areas of my life, in order to feel calm, at peace, balanced and secure. Security especially, because I felt an immense amount of fear of abandonment due to my traumatic history with my biological mother.
So! We worked on what he called The Practical Spirituality course. I identified my needs in the areas of personal happiness, physical well-being, family, friends, spirituality, work, financial etc. I felt completely confused, and lost at times - no one had ever asked me to develop opinions on my needs before. I was...
I was 19 years old, had just returned from travelling Europe for several months with my best friend and it was my first time ever leaving Toronto. To say I was experiencing culture shock is an understatement. I was so in love with everything Europe showed me, the food, beaches, architecture, language, and vast diversity just a few hour drive away from each town I visited.
When I returned from Europe, I was underwhelmed with the small town I lived in that boasted strip malls, movie theatres and big chain restaurants that were the 'hot spots' for teenagers around those parts. I longed for something more, though I had no idea what that was or how I was going to get there.
It seemed all of the travellers I met while in Europe had gotten there, and paid for their trips by bartending and waitressing either in their home towns or in the towns they were visiting. It was a no-brainer, get a job downtown Toronto slinging drinks, make loads of cash and go back to Europe. Well, that was...
I was to stay there 4 days, and volunteer in the kitchen. I needed time, silence and space to sort out my head. I was turning 31, and I was nowhere near where I wanted to be in life. My dream of being a mother was torn away from me, and there was no happily ever after staring me in the face.
Early, on the third morning I was at Vipassana meditation centre, I awoke with an intense anxiousness I had not felt since arriving there. Until then, I was enjoying the dense, white snow up north, crisp quiet air on my walks and humble, yet delicious vegetarian food. Why did I all of a sudden want to leave so badly?
I swayed with the idea of telling the manager that I was going to leave a day early. My thoughts danced from whether I was being disrespectful or would not be honouring myself if I didn't listen to my heart.
I called him to tell him I was coming home early, though got his voicemail and told him there instead. I was about 90 mins north of home, a place where we...
My spiritual inquisition began at the age of 8, or 9. I would stare deeply into my own eyes, 2 inches away from my bedroom mirror, and ask myself "Who are you in there?" It was the first time I acknowledged a sense of being inside my body, and it felt mysterious, and good.
The trauma that I experienced while living in an alcoholic and physically abusive home lead me to be in such a depressed and anxious state that I began searching for answers...I wanted to know how I could find peace, self-acceptance and unconditional love because no matter where I went, or who I was with, I felt a void and emptiness in my heart, and that...I couldn't handle anymore.
At the age of 19, I walked into a little white house off College St near Little Italy, that had a sign out front that said "Brahma Kumari - Yoga Of The Mind" - I entered and learned that this was not a physical yoga practise, yet a sort of University on the theories of life, and human existence. They accepted everyone,...
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